The Psychology of Slaves

The Queer World boasts a host of sexual behaviors whose superficial aspects have begun to enter mainstream society, principally through the expression of fashion, of dress.


Sad to say, these superficial expressions have also influenced the Queer World itself, where Kink amounts to little more than drag.  The image of leather he-men entering a space and then revealing themselves to be little more than nelly queens in talk and manner becomes the stock-in-trade of those who insist upon trivializing gay behavior that they do not understand.


There is, however, deeper layers to this Queer World.  Even here, trivial minds characterize as mere "role-play" the effort of men to address the needs of the submissive gay male seeking to be dominated, even "owned" by a man.

Let's define our terms.  I am talking about biological male human beings who are not psychologically comfortable as men.  They are not females at all, yet they seek to be taken care of, to be controlled, to be dominated by real men.  

What is a man then?  A man wants control of his life, control of his body, control of his mind, control of his soul. He is goal oriented. He is logical. He is the aggressor sexually and in life in general. He is a decision maker, a protector, a hunter/gatherer. A man is many things -- virtually none of which are satisfying to the sort of submissive gay male of which I speak.

Not all submissive gay males wish to be completely dominated.   For those that do, I call them, for want of a better term, "slave" in the word's true etymological sense as one who seeks to be completely dominated by another.  

We do have the case of heterosexual men who seek the services of a dominatrix, but let us be clear.  Such a man seeks sexual excitement and release by engaging the services of female dominatrix, but it is the man who still calls the shots:  he still must pay her and he still controls the action, even if indirectly.

The entire point of a submissive male's seeking domination lays in its desire to avoid responsibility for its action, its thought.  It wants a man to take charge of its being, its very soul, and men in the Queer World have developed both subtle psychological, as well as grossly physical, techniques of bringing such submissive males to an ever more complete subjugation to the will of their Masters, as the dominating men in such contexts are called. 

One such Master has listened extensively to what such slaves have said about their own nature and desires:

In many ways, a slave seeks the role and he functions as a female. This does not denote frilly, dainty or feminized, just female. However, while no man would ever accept frilly, dainty or feminized, most slaves would if this is what they were expected to do. He asks to be the receiver of the male seed, seeking to be penetrated orally or anally.

He asks to be domestic, seeking hearth and home over the world outside. He asks to be allowed to be nurturing and intuitive. He is emotional and more often than not wants to function on these emotions, not logic. He seeks to submit to a strong male influence and then seeks to be directed and protected by the strong male. He specifically rejects those attributes of a man I outlined above that are in contrast to the female.

In short, he is female more than he is male.

In many ways, he seeks the role and functions as a child. We even refer to him as "boy" and he relishes this title. He is easily upset when he breaks the rules and feels guilty for having done so. He wants to please adult males and is happiest when they are happy. He is pliable as a child is pliable, willing to do and be whatever the adult male wants him to do and be. He wants his body to be denuded of any physical traits of adult males, usually enjoying and feeling most natural with no body hair particularly in the pubic region, even as he finds such body hair erotic on men.

He asks for and seeks to have his sexual urges controlled so he is not bothered by them just as a child is seldom bothered by them. Eventually, the slave loses his ability to eroticize and sexualize by himself and such feelings need to be aroused by an adult male. He finds it hard to control and behave himself in many situations and then feels badly when he has misbehaved. To change his behavior, it is not overly effective to deal with him as one would deal with a man. Rather, he is most effectively corrected through the same types of methods used on children, not the least of which is being taken over the knee and spanked.

In short, he is more child than adult.

In many ways, he seeks the role and functions as an animal. He feels comfortable on the floor, not using furniture. He wants to be on all fours, feels best on all fours. He needs to be petted and stroked as a man does an animal. He wants to eat and drink out of bowls, even toilet bowls, not using hands or utensils and finds satisfaction in being fed from the hand of his Owner. He expresses affection in the way an animal does, through the eyes, through body language, through licking, nuzzling, rubbing. He accepts being denied human speech and readily and naturally purrs, sighs, whimpers and even growls. He allows his body to be modified by piercing, tattoos, brands, in any way a man wants to modify it whether or not he wants it, even to the point of being sexually "fixed" as an animal would.

In short, he is more animal than human.

In many ways, he is a thing. He seeks to be owned, like a commodity. He seeks and allows his body to be used as if it feels no pain, even though it does. He will function as a wastebasket, an ashtray, a toilet, a doormat, a mop, a dishrag. He will call himself a toy, gear, any use other terms of "things" to describe himself. He will identify with other material goods the Man owns and often sees himself as little more than just a more complicated material good the Man owns. He readily accepts being referred to as property and will accept being called "it" and will do so himself if it is expected of him. He will become completely passive allowing things to happen to him and be done to him never moving nor making a sound as if he were a rock or a plant.

In short, he is more thing than human.

So, what do we call this being that rejects all that a man is, rejects all that he appears to be on the outside and is more female than male, more child than adult, more animal or mineral than human? How can we say we want to develop him into "who" he is when his own self-definition transcends his being a "who." We can only refer to him as "what" he is because it does not fit to call him "who." Thus, I refer to him as what, not as who, and why I can define these beings simply as slave, because I have no other term.

Slaves, then, in the context of the Queer World,  refer to male submissives who have the courage to seek their bliss, men who enjoy dominating them, much as man would keep a pet to train, a hobby offering multiple pleasures, not the least of which is a pet having some intelligence, making it more useful to the man than a dog, cat, or some other pet.  

Just as a man enjoys the process of building a loving relationship with the dog he is training, so a man enjoys the more complicated and challenging process of building a loving relationship with a submissive male human being.  The Master loves his slave, but he loves it as a man loves his dog.  The process through which the man trains the dog is the emotional glue that binds the two of them together.  Dogs, of course, love the attention, and gay slaves enjoy the attention of their Masters in exactly the same way. Thus the practices of Masters and slaves in "session" work, where, through pain and submission, tight sexual bonds are formed.

What, if anything, does the foregoing have to do with "gay marriage"?  The implications are these:  real men do not get married, as real men are psychological equals.  One does not dominate the other, and while two men can develop a sexually active love relationship with each other, it is unlikely to last very long for the reasons already stated.  If, however, one of the two men is not truly a man but a slave, then a sound and stable sexual relationship might be established, even if it is only the slave who is sexually monogamous.  

Monogamy, of course, is not the point of such relationships.  In fact, the only benefit to sexual monogamy is the security of the female in producing children:  she wants to know that she and her offsring will be supported and that she will be well-treated with kindness and consideration.  Males alone do not produce children, so the only interest lay in sex and control.  On such a basis gay males have a chance to build healthy and satisfying relationships, not by trying to emulate heterosexual marriage.